How many of us have grappled with the decision of professional career or full-time mom? I remember when our daughter arrived I frantically emailed friends who had chosen to stay at home to get their insight and tips. For some, it is a no-brainer. But for others of us, it is a tremendously difficult choice. Either way, you sacrifice. Either way, you let someone down. Either way, life as you know it will change.
I have been working consistently, on a payroll, since I was 12. Granted, this is probably not normal. I have been in my current position for more than three years. I have been at the University for more than ten.
For me, a people-pleaser, I had to really wrestle with everyone else’s expectations. While they shall remain nameless, I felt a tremendous amount of pressure that I would be failing other people, for various reasons. I had to come to terms with that.
Several years ago, a friend recommended this book called When People Are Big and God is Small. This book gave me a new perspective. For all of you people-pleasers out there who are feeling really busy and burdened by the expectations of the world, definitely consider reading this book to help you prioritize your life.
Or, if you are feeling burdened by some other baggage, whether it is stress, loneliness, guilt, fear, or keeping up with the Joneses, read Traveling Light by Max Lucado. This is such an easy read and is so encouraging. It can be so hard to let go of those burdens to really find the peace and freedom to live the life you were meant to live. This book helps you see those obstacles from a different lens. I have read it multiple times as I tend to worry a lot!
Those books have been so encouraging to me, and I hope others can find encouragement from them as well! Whether or not you choose to work outside the home is a personal decision, and you obviously have to do what is best for your family. There are going to be pros and cons either way. Whatever we choose, let’s be intentional about it!